They say variety is the spice of life and I have to say that I absolutely love this philosophy. I have always been the type of person who is friends with all different groups of people and not tied into one “click” or group. I love my business because we attract all kinds of customers from every walk of life and I think it is just the greatest. We run ecommerce sites and also produce garments globally for all different kinds of clothing manufacturers and it is just the most interesting thing to be exposed to every facet of life, it’s the best!
I love that my customers from my ecommerce sites call me and I have a chance to interact with people in Minnesota who tell me it is 80 degrees and sunny on October 6th when it is freezing and raining in my Los Angeles area. I love that my customers are a trendy college co-ed in Boston and an oversized hunter from Wyoming. I am so lucky to have exposure with every economic, social, racial…group of people. Diversity is just so amazing, refreshing, interesting and truly uplifting, I cannot imagine life any other way.
With this being said, I cannot begin to tell you how it saddens me to see the beautiful faces on the news and in articles, as of late, of children who have just been tortured and driven to despair and even death at the hands of other children and for what? Is it because they think, look or act differently? Isn’t life supposed to be about equality, the very thing our country was founded on.
Bullying is defined as unprovoked, repeated and aggressive actions or threats of action by one or more persons who have, or are perceived to have, more power or status than their victim in order to cause fear, distress or harm. Bullying can be physical, verbal, psychological or a combination of these three. Specific examples include name-calling, taunting, teasing and put-downs; saying or writing inappropriate things about a person; deliberately excluding a person from activities or conversation; threatening a person with bodily harm; hitting, kicking, tripping, shoving or otherwise inappropriately touching a person; taking or damaging a person’s belongings; and making a person do things he or she does not want to do. Bullying can also occur through electronic means via Web postings, e-mails, chat rooms and text messaging.
For the life of me, I cannot see what is appealing about these actions, I really don’t understand what sense of goodness or accomplishment can come from being a bully. I’m not trying to completely over simplify the situation but with applying the exact definition of private or privacy we can eliminate bullying. The definition of private from the American Heritage Dictionary is to
" Seclude from the sight, presence, or intrusion of others - personal - not available for public use". Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could figure out a way to seclude the victim from the bully and give them privacy.
As a mother with a child with special needs, I believe privacy is at the forefront of helping this child to succeed, as a friend who has friends with medical conditions, I don’t believe there is anything more important than respecting their privacy to help them cope and/or heal.
A bully thrives on humiliating or “lowering the pride or dignity of a person - to disgrace someone” while a decent human being believes being respectful of a person will increase the pride or dignity of another human being. I truly cannot imagine living any other way.
Again, I feel so lucky to run an ecommerce site where everyone has the right to privacy, my site teestodifor.com is a store for fashion basics for EVERYBODY. I love that someone who may feel self conscious in a store can come to my site and buy an oversized tee shirt, sweatshirt or whatever they fancy and feel great about their purchase. I love that someone who may feel awkward in a store due to economic conditions or because they have a more simplistic approach to fashion can come to my site and indulge themselves in feeling good about their purchase with no questions asked, unless they call us directly and I can assure you they will be treated with the upmost respect and courtesy. I love that my store is easily accessible to those who may not have a car, the close proximity, the time…or whatever can be holding them back from shopping and that they can click their way to a productive shopping and peaceful day.